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Woman Returns Black Adopted Baby After 18 Months, Claiming She Couldn't "Bond" With It
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No decision she ever made or ever expects to make was more agonizing or more controversial. After 18 months of pouring her love and efforts into bonding with her adoptive son, Anita Tedaldi realized it wasn’t working and gave the child to another family.
“I loved him and I cared deeply for him,” Tedaldi told TODAY’s Matt Lauer Thursday in New York. “I tried to do the same exact thing I did with my biological children, but over time it became clear that our family maybe wasn’t a good match for him, that we were unable to meet some of his needs.”
Tedaldi inspired both praise and condemnation when she wrote in The New York Times’ Motherlode blog about the orphan boy she and her husband adopted — whom, they learned, had been found abandoned at the side of a road .
The child’s exact age could not be determined (details that have been reported about the child’s age, place of origin, and new family have been altered to protect his identity). His legs were underdeveloped, and his head was flat in the back from being left in a crib unattended.
The controversy has spread to the blog written by TODAY’s Natalie Morales, who wrote about it after reporting Tedaldi’s story. After reading Tedaldi’s story in the Times, Morales observed: “It’s a piece that will bring you to tears.”
She did her homework
It also brought Tedaldi to wrenching tears. She and her husband, who is in the U.S. military and is frequently deployed overseas, had three natural children. They wanted to adopt to share their blessings with a child who otherwise would have had little hope.
“I had wanted to adopt for a long time, even before I met my husband or had my biological daughters,” she wrote in her blog entry. “I’ve always wanted a large family, like the one I grew up with in Italy, and I love the chaos and liveliness of many kids.”
Tedaldi said she wasn’t going into adoption blind or with false expectations. “I did lots of research on adoption, including attachment problems and other complications that older adopted children can have,” she wrote. “I spoke to my therapist and went through a thorough screening process with social workers to figure out if I, and my family, could be a good match for a child who needed a home.”
She was ecstatic when she picked up the boy, whom she identifies only as “D.,” after months of waiting, Tedaldi recounted. But as much as she poured herself into the challenges of raising him along with her natural children, she realized that she wasn’t connecting with him, and that he wasn’t bonding with her at that visceral level that only a parent understands.
As time went on, Tedaldi began to consider giving him up to another adoptive family, but first, she sought out a therapist to help her bond with D.
“Still, I struggled,” Tedaldi wrote. “One day ... I was on the phone with Jennifer, our social worker, who merely asked ‘what's up’ when I blurted out that I couldn't parent D., that things were too hard.
“As soon as I said these words out loud, a flood of emotions washed over me, and I sobbed, clutching the phone with both hands.”
An agonizing decision
Problems with D. were also affecting her marriage, and when her husband was home between deployments, they found themselves fighting nearly constantly. Finally, the family made the wrenching decision to go to an agency to find a new home for D.
Tedaldi and “Samantha,” D.’s new mother, spent days meeting together with the boy to smooth the transition. Tedaldi wrote movingly of the last time she saw D.
“I kneeled down and pulled D. close to me, desperately wanting to impress an indelible memory of my son on me, and me on him, inhaling his scent, feeling his soft skin and touching his coarse hair. In our last moments together, I stared into his eyes and told him that I loved him and that I had tried to do my best,” she wrote. “His new mom would love him so, so much; my little man would be OK. He didn’t cry, he stared back at me, then looked to Samantha and asked for more juice.”
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Comment by MATIC on October 7, 2009 at 9:55am -
It,s good she give him bacc,she should'nt hav adopted him anyway.It's better she give him bacc then treat him like s*** n havin him grow up confused.It ain't tha Webster dayz Muthafucca...
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Comment by J on October 6, 2009 at 11:22pm -
Dumb white b****
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Comment by Meek on October 6, 2009 at 8:46pm -
I'm madd she said " Touching his coarse hair" WTF!!!!! She made it sound like she was giving up a puppy she could not tolerate anymore . I hope Angelina Joe lee slay her off of GP. Like how are you going to adopt then return . what kind of bull s*** is that. She couldnt bond because he was a black child thats all...because a baby is a baby. The most innocent thing on earth how can you not bond. I do not want to hear that s***.
This s*** makes white people look bad for adopting. Like for real. and why I say Angelina is because she is for adopting children from all backgrounds in under priveledge countries to share her blessing and now this c*** of the world come out on TV advertising she gave up her black adopted child. I do not care if it was an pacific islander baby it was the fact that she came out on tv saying she could not bond with a baby that was in this case not of her race.
WHAT THE F*** IS WRONG WITH THE WORLD
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Comment by Keisha on October 6, 2009 at 6:52pm -
B******* she probably was hitting that a baby will love you no matter what o.k...................Forreal
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Comment by BKALLDAY on October 6, 2009 at 9:17am -
wut needs couldnt she meet?? its a f**** infant. its needs are eat, s*** & sleep...
KILL THIS DEVIL B****!!!!!!
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Comment by Bigley on October 5, 2009 at 7:27pm
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i never said n***** but if i did u think honkie cracka gon hurt my feelings dawg its not
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Comment by tata lopez on October 5, 2009 at 12:42pm -
- i don`t think race has an issue in this case, don`t you think if it did she would of never adopted a african american baby? you really don`t know her situation, maybe the baby is better off with another family.
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Comment by www.WeGeekedUp.com on October 5, 2009 at 11:35am
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wtf
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Comment by Danielle on October 5, 2009 at 9:30am -
I think she's using "not getting attached" as a excuse. I think she shoudlve stuck with it. you dont have to be attached to the child. but the best interest for the child was to stick with him. over time i think they wouldve grown together.
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Comment by aim on October 5, 2009 at 8:46am -
y race keeps being brought up? the parents dat left da baby out thur dats jus their own ignorance...if 90% of black parents did this then yea play da race card but it aint lyke dat...i aint got a problem wit da choice she made bcuz atleast she tried
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