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Permalink Reply by Danielle on August 30, 2011 at 2:40am

I hear about my single and successful ladies out there, saying that they want to concentrate on their careers first before getting themselves in a relationship, almost as if to imply that you can't be in a relationship and be successful at the same time.

Here is my take on the whole thing. To me, success is a relative thing, and romance/relationships are a relative thing. Both things are completely contingent on the person's current state of mind. If you are currently concentrating on, for example, starting a business, and you can't think of anything else but starting a business, you are the type that focuses on one thing at a time. This is not to say, however, that you can't also be in a relationship. I think a lot of people use the career first option as a cop out, a means to avoid utilizing the feelings and emotions that come with being in love or loved.

If you are with someone you genuinely love, it surpasses all the drama because you are actively going to make a concerted effort to figure out what you need to do. If the frustration of not having any money gets to you to the point that the two of you cannot function cohesively, perhaps you should reconsider whether or not the two of you are as in ... love as you think you are, in general, that is.

I always have more to say...but anymore thoughts on this?

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Permalink Reply by Not enuff ca$h on February 27, 2012 at 10:33pm

Some good points D!
I think ultimately, the choice will vary from 1 person to the next. Both positions can bring a certain level of happiness. But it won't be a complete situation unless a person can have success on both levels; at the same time.

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Permalink Reply by Danielle on February 29, 2012 at 8:21pm

thanks i really appreciate the feedback. always been a topic i wanted to touch on cause now i find myself more tied up in my career vs. being in a relationship...

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Permalink Reply by Not enuff ca$h on March 3, 2012 at 6:16am

I see..
That's cool tho. Nothing wrong with being about your business. This type of focus will almost certainly keep you from wasting valuable time. And if the right relationship comes along while ur being successful then so be it.
Now come holla at me!

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